How to connect your two accounts, share what's actually joint, and see who is really carrying what. About ten minutes to set up, once.
The two of you do different things here, so find your column.
The same message contains an 8-character code. Open Family, find Have a code instead?, type it in, and tap Join Household. Same result.
Every task has a 🏠 button. Tap it and pick one of two. Everything starts private, so there is nothing to choose until you want to share it.
It becomes a household task. Both of you can tick it off, and they can take it onto their own list. Use this for anything genuinely joint — the school forms, the thing either of you could pick up.
They can see it, and it stays yours. Good for something you want visible without handing over, so they know it is on your plate. Nobody else can tick it off or take it.
Once a task is shared, the same menu offers Stop sharing. It goes back to being yours alone.
The closest thing to a shared family space, and usually the better move.
Open your Projects list and tap 🏠 Share on the project header. Everything already in it is shared, and anything either of you adds later is shared automatically — no per-task decisions.
Use it for the things that are jointly yours by nature. House move. Summer holiday. The kids' school year.
Your partner's own tasks appear inside that project alongside yours, marked with their name. Their tasks stay theirs to tick off.
When you add a new project, tick Share this project with my household and it is shared from the first task.
Sharing lets them see it. Handing it over moves it.
Tap 🏠 on any task and choose Give to [their name]. The task leaves your list and lands on theirs, and they are told the next time they open the app — neither of you has to be there at the same time.
Any task shared as either of you can do it carries a Take it on the Family tab. Tap it and the task moves onto your list. No asking, no waiting — the person who shared it already said either of you could.
They are told it moved the next time they open the app, so nothing quietly disappears from anyone's list.
A task marked shared — mine to do stays with whoever owns it. No checkbox for the other person, no Take it, and the app will never suggest handing it over. Marking it that way is how you say so.
Send is for people outside the app — a text or an email to whoever is doing the thing. That task stays on your board with a note that you've asked, because you still want to see it until it's done. Giving is for the person in here with you.
Seven short steps: celebrate what went well, look back at the week, look ahead, check how the load fell between you, read what the coach noticed, cut the list down to what matters, and agree on it.
Either of you can start it, you can both put things in, and you can stop halfway and pick it up later the same day. Sit down together for this one — it's the part that does the real work.
Everything not on this list stays yours alone.
Set any shared task back to Private and it disappears from your partner's view. Unshare a whole project and it becomes yours again — nothing either of you wrote is deleted.
You each have your own. Shared tasks land under the matching category on your partner's screen when you both have that category — the built-in ones like Home, Kids and Errands match by default. A category one of you invented won't have a twin on the other side, so those tasks show as Uncategorized. Sharing them inside a project avoids this entirely.
You are among the first couples to use this. If something looks wrong, says the wrong name, or simply doesn't appear for your partner, that's worth telling us — those reports are the point. Email support@clarityos.info.